The Lie of The "Bad Emotions Narrative"
One of my deepest wishes is that you would join me on my brave and vulnerable and terrifying quest to rehumanize emotions. Without judgment. Without correction. Without fixing. Simply being with your emotions. A place of awareness. Wrapping words around the story you are telling yourself.
Sure, there are times when our heaviness has more to tell us. That it’ll beg to be known. That the psychoanalyzing is helpful, healing.
But for now, for once, might we try throwing ourselves a lifeline in a sea of heavy emotions. Not bad emotions. Not wrong emotions. Just heavy. And just sit with them, as though they are normal (they are), and companion yourself inside of it.
Your emotions don’t need to be avoided. You don’t need to be fixed. Carry what is yours to carry, there’s support along the way. Once you can learn to look grief, pain, heavy emotions head on, you might realize it’s made up of both heavy, dark things and good things.
Because to hurt this so very deeply, you must’ve once felt great joy and love. We need the darkness and the light. If you think about it, the light is only beautiful in the presence of darkness, like stars in the sky or twinkle lights on a Christmas night or fireworks on 4th of July. While I may be used to and more comfortable with sitting in the light, my challenge to myself (and to you) is to allow in the darkness.
Somehow, this will all end in love.