Chester Bennington's Suicide: The Impact of His Music on Other Survivors of Sexual Trauma

Chester Bennington's Suicide: The Impact of His Music on Other Survivors of Sexual Trauma

My heart breaks at the recent news of Chester Bennington's death, his suicide. Linkin Park meant a lot to so many people - for all of us who didn't know what to do but just close our eyes and listen to music. We were understood in lyrics. Some of you know what I'm talking about; at some point a song or band has been the only way you go through something difficult. It's often the least condemning and safest haven we know.

Chester Bennington was a survivor of sexual abuse. He was open about his past and struggles with drug and alcohol addiction. He spoke about being able to vent the pain and negative things through his music. He found solace in writing poetry, in drawing, and in music. He encouraged others to do the same. Speak your pain. Find a way to vent it. Let it go.

For every person struggling today, and for the sexual trauma community there's a message I think Nate Hilpert wrote perfectly in his article for HeartSupport:

...If you put yourself in their shoes, if you feel the overwhelm of emotion, if you feel the numbness of loneliness, if you feel the fear of their everyday existence, if you really get it, it all makes sense. If their life today is the way life is always going to be, I’d be thinking the same thing too...

When you walk outside, looking up at the sky, it feels like every day there is a dark cloud thundering above you. Every day is a storm. And there’s no promise of it ever leaving. It’s been here for so long - it feels like maybe this is all there is and all there’ll ever be.

But what you’ve forgotten is behind that behind the biggest cloud, the wildest storm, the darkest day is a blue sky.

For a season, you might be in the middle of this storm, but it will pass. Zoom out from your life, see the blue skies, and remember that it’s coming. Set your focus on the clear days to come. Because those days are coming... to you. And you deserve to see it.

You can make it to better weather. You can see hope become reality. You’ll see the clouds fade and the sun break through. You’ll feel warm light on your skin again. You’ll remember how to smile, how to laugh, how to have joy. Your time is coming. It’s just on the other end of this storm. You can make it.

Forecast says there’s clear skies ahead.

Hold fast.
— Nate Hilpert, "Why Suicide Makes Sense, and Why You Still Shouldn't Do It"

It's hard to ask for help, but if you don't ask for help you may not get it. And keep trying until you find someone who will listen and bring understanding. The number one thing I can say is it's either going to get better or it's going to get different.

If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of self-harm and suicide, please reach out to the National Suicide Hotline at 800-273-8255. You are not alone. If you are a victim of sexual abuse, please call the National Sexual Assault hotline at 800-656-4673 for help and to talk. You are not alone. Help is available 24/7.

 

p.s. you can get the full article at heartsupport.com and search for the advice for any day booklet.

 

"Remember all the sadness and frustration. And let it go, let it go"

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