The Destructive Nature of Secrets

The Destructive Nature of Secrets

I've been busy working on two special projects - which I can't quite share with all of you yet. As many of you know (and if you don't, check out my Brea Ramos page) I have a wonderful, supportive husband. We enjoy discussing how the church is missing the human factor - that being human is to being Christian. We find a way to bridge my world of traumatic hurt and being silenced and his world of a Christian author in love with the Old Testament. The result - a conversation on the destructive nature of secrets.

David is releasing his new book "The Bible Habit" soon. Whenever David releases a new book, I get the privilege of editing the book and sharing my thoughts for a new perspective. While reviewing "The Bible Habit" I came across the quote below. And, well, it is perfect to have on this blog.

I'm just gonna leave this awesomeness here:

Some people are natural “sharers.” You know these types. The ones who feel it is their duty to constantly update you on every area of their life. Whether you want to or not, you know all about their aunt’s toenail disease, or what their dog threw up on the carpet last night, or how they just can’t say no to a certain bakery even though they’re trying this new diet…and on and on and on. Most people are not sharers. In fact, most Christians are quite the opposite.
The Christian community has become all too comfortable with remaining comfortable. We rarely share anything real, anything painful. We offer slivers of reality in our testimonials, but only in order to convince our audience that everything (yes, everything) is better now. When in fact it’s not, and you’re so far from okay it’s impossible to believe that you’re not secretly the most messed up person in the room. But I promise you, you are not. You are perfectly normal, and when Bible reading communities reach the point of raw honesty you will see that we are all deeply flawed works in progress.
Another word for “share” is “contribute.” To add. What is the opposite of sharing? Subtracting. When you keep silent, when you steer away from feeling uncomfortable, you are not saving anyone from anything. You are subtracting from what you uniquely have to offer that group.
— David Ramos

Yes! Yes! Yes! Break your silence and find your voice. We are unquiet.

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